Thursday, May 29, 2008

Not 'AnyOne' ... 'SomeOne'


“So, why do you want to be alone? Do you not wish to be with anyone?” I was asked. “Oh no! Please understand. It is not my wish, to be alone.


I want very much to be with 'SomeOne'. But if I was with 'AnyOne,' it would only be an uncomfortable reminder, that I am not with that 'SomeOne'.” I answered.


Now, as I reflect on that brief exchange, I consider that You too (as You read these few, simple words) may want to be with your 'SomeOne' at this moment. But circumstance (or perhaps the fruits of previous life choices) have conspired to leave you alone ... with a discriminating disinclination to be with 'AnyOne'.

So, I write, that You may know ...
You are not alone in your Moment.




IMAGES: "Alone" Maxine Kahn, BBC; "SomeOne" Darkroom 11

23 comments:

lime said...

it's a more poetic rendering of what a friend of mine(a single mom)retorts to that inquiry....better to be single than wish you were.

settling for second best is no way to go.

Anonymous said...

John-Michael how sad indeed. I understand "anyone" is not "someone". How fortunate we are too ever have had our time with our "someone". We must hold that memory tight within our heart. Its a fine line between keeping our "someone" close and allowing "anyone" in so they may become "someone".

John-Michael said...

In the genre of the "less poetic" possible renderings of the thought:
"Better homeless, than imprisoned" comes to my funky mind.

Having experienced "imprisonment" in unhappy relationships, and "homelessness" in physical as well as relational settings ... I think that truth lies in this rendering as well, my "fun to explore the possibilities with" Friend, darling Lime.

Thanks for adding your zest to the thought, I love Ya!

John-Michael said...

'Tis a ticklish challenge, I must confess, my Anonymous Friend. This business of knowing where that "line" lies, balanced against that desire for satisfaction of Yearnings.

(It has kept far better writers, poets, and lyricists, than I could ever hope to be, in business for centuries.)

FXSmom said...

Deep and true :0)

John-Michael said...

From a woman who knows the true measure of all that has purposeful depth, and the purity of all that rings True ... your assessment carries the weight of a Validation. I am pleased and complimented to be on "the same page" with You, Dear Beth.

Lovingly appreciative ...

Suldog said...

I'm very blessed, in that I've been with THE someone for me for the past 19 years. I know what it felt like before that happened, though, and I empathize with those who don't have what I do.

Corey~living and loving said...

My first thought was "WOW....Deep" as well.

I love post like this that really make me think. Thank you for the "deep thought" today!

Hope you are well. Take good care of YOU!

Don Mills Diva said...

Perfect, John-Michael, just perfect. I am lucky enough to be with my "someone" but I know only too well that being with just anyone is far lonelier than being alone...

John-Michael said...

Darling Jim, the solidifying element in my unswerving Love of You, was your unabashedly proclaiming of your Love for your "MY WIFE!" I knew, from my first exposure to that openly displayed adoration, that whoever this SulDog person was, I am grateful that Life has allowed me the privilege of knowing him. And that regard has only blossomed since!

I love You, My Friend!

John-Michael said...

Corey ... Over the years I have saved images that express some element of my Spirit's 'Voice.' I usually combine one of these images with an attempt to convey a thought or emotion in words, in hope that the pairing will communicate more clearly that either could alone. As I try to translate my innermost Being's response to your Presence, and your words ... I am without language to convey what is within. But This Image that I have never employed before is clearly before me. So, (after searching it out, posting it to a special blog, copying the 'source', and 'linking it) I am trusting it to speak for me.

Lovingly ...

John-Michael said...

One of the most profoundly sad statements that I have ever heard spoken (no doubt, because I identified so strongly with it) was used to describe a "couple" by Another. They were said to be "Two people, walking alone ... together."

Nothing more needs saying.

(I do heartily celebrate, with and for You, My Precious Don Mills Darling, Life's wondrous Gift of your SomeOne to your wonderful life. I am so happy to know and Love You.)

San said...

First off, John-Michael, you have chosen one of my favorite songs, Bobby McFerrin's "Over the Rainbow," as background music. I wanted this as the "soundtrack" when I posted about my daughter's graduation a while back but couldn't find it online. So, as the cliche goes, better late than never. It's good to hear it today at this place, your place.

And of course your distinction between being with SomeOne and being with anyone is wise indeed. Too much of life today is lived by default. It's purpose that impassions us, not settling for what(or who)ever happens to be around.

Lovely images too, as ever.

San said...

I'm trying again, John-Michael, to post a comment. Blogger sent me some gobbledy gook error message before. Mercury's retrograde.

First off, you've chosen one of my favorite songs, Bobby McFerrin's "Over the Rainbow" as background music. I wanted it as the "soundtrack" for the post I wrote about my daughter's graduation a while back, but I couldn't find it online. So, as the cliche goes, better late than never. It's nice to hear it today, at this place, your place.

And your differentiating between being with SomeOne and being with anyone is wise. Too much of life these days is lived by default. It's purpose that impassions us. Better to be alone and living with passion than to settle for anyone who happens to be around.

John-Michael said...

Oh San, Thank You!, Thank You!, Thank You! for persevering and making the extra effort to say "Hello." I do hope that You realize how much I delight in hearing from You. (I am grinning the silliest grin now ... your previous efforts at commenting are coming in ... ain't it great!! [smile])

I simply MUST give praise to Beth
for her Gift of the song. I too had looked for it and had no success. She sent it to me as a sweet gift last Friday. I was overjoyed for I wanted to enjoy it as I now am. So, using her gift, I found even more information on the artist performing the songs. He is Israel Kamakawiwo' ole
and, sadly, passed away shortly after recording the songs. The link that I used for my embedded music is the one that I just gave you.

The statements made at in this post were most casual at the time. I then had one of those "lightbulb" moments, and realized that what I had just said was the succinct summary of a multitude of thought and meditation over a very long time. So, I just had to share it.

Thanking You for your Presence ... I am loving You ... always!

CrazyCath said...

Yet another thought provoking post and I sooo agree with your response. It is NOT good enough to settle for second best - You are worth more than that. Although it can be painful waiting for that SomeOne, it is far better to wait and enjoy the time you have than to settle for anyone and have your spirit crushed.

Great post John-Michael!

Classic Charm said...

Wow what a post, it really makes one think doesn't it. I really loved this one, nice.
Hugs,
Rose

Jules~ said...

I am not even sure what to say here....but I do feel the need and desire TO say.....

It is so good how you pointed out the difference between anyone and someone.
I am reminded how people need to slow down and notice subtle differences like these. It is all too easy to put things and people in a pre-made box, forgetting about individuality and heart.

nitebyrd said...

I think the fear of being alone is what sometimes makes the "anyone" a "someone." Many times with tragic results. The key is to be alone but not lonely. That's the difference between success and failure.

John-Michael said...

"Spirit crushed" is so aptly a definition of the easily achieved result of placing One's Self in bondage in an unhealthy relationship. Well said CathDaughter.

With loving care ...

John-Michael said...

Thank you Rose, my Dear One. It is very pleasing to me to know that I have given You something meaningful. I like that!

'Cause I love You, is why ...

John-Michael said...

And when Life becomes still and quiet ... "individuality and heart" become 'The Issues', do they not, Sweetest Jules~? I am grateful for your singling out this critical distinction. Thank you.

I do love all that is You!

John-Michael said...

That Fear that You refer to, Darling NiteByrd, is such a threat to making sound and prudent choices. And, as has been the truth always, Fear distorts and disguises the realities and perceptions of the One having Fear as their companion. I am so happy that you bring Fear to the table of consideration here. It is so necessary to reveal its powers and dangers.

It is so easy and comfortably natural to Love You, my Dear!

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